- DM: I think, in a very macho society, to display feelings of love is actually to display weakness, that it is not male, that it is not a sign of strength to in any way emotionally rely on another person, and also that virility, male sexuality, is not dependent on mutual understanding but on conquest...That is the kind of attitude I grew up with in Vengere township. That is what I also wrote about in The House of Hunger. . . This is also what silences me sometimes, usually when I feel that I love somebody. I then remember all the things I have been brought up with.
She shook her head. She would not let him make her feel that there was something wrong with her. It was her right to be upset, her right not to choose to brush her humiliation aside in the name of an overexalted intellectualism, and she would claim that right. “Go.” She gestured toward the door. “Go and play your tennis and don’t come back here.” —from Chimamanda Adichie’s Half of a Yellow Sun, p.128-9
You are the central movement of the hour. You’re raising questions that are in the hearts of millions. Your motto, “We are the 99%,” has been heard, heeded, and responded to by millions. You can be certain that the 1% have heard you clearest of all.
Your work, however, is just beginning. You must deepen, strengthen, and further your work until it truly reaches the 99%, almost all of us: workers, black folk, Latinos and Latinas, LGBTs, immigrants, Asians, artists, all of us, for we are integral parts of the 99%. I salute you and hope fervently that you will grow beyond number.” —
Predictably grim comments underneath the blog post here, but a few salient and sensible voices - especially JackStrawfromWichita
1951 Census | population by place of birth in England and Wales
1,569 - Trinidad
2,024 - British Guiana
6,447 - Jamaica
110,767 - India
11,117 - Pakistan
151,736 - Poland
96,379 - Germany
33,159 - Italy
Rethinking what I ‘know’ about post-war immigration & the pitfalls of discussing postcolonial migration in the UK as a separate event…
Of course, not all women of color are sexualized in the same way. For example, while black women are considered lascivious, always consenting and out of control, Latina[s] are considered exotic or overly sensual and Asian women are considered childish and prude. These particular stereotypes are reinforced through popular culture and pornography (just Google respectively “Asian women,” “black women,” or “Latina women” and then “women” and see what comes up). The common thread here is that nonwhite women’s sexuality is seen as outside the norm of white heterosexuality. It’s therefore something to uniquely desired, manipulated, exploited or controlled. Within this rather toxic climate, being a woman of color who’s in touch with her sexuality is an act of resistance. Pushing past the negative media depictions and still finding a healthy, healing, erotic, and functional sexuality is no small feat.
I have often felt trapped between discourses of sexuality. If I’m overtly sexual, I’m a threat to what it means to be a good, pious South Asian lady and to the white norms of sexuality. As a result, when I am sexual, I am confronting my ethnic community and the norms of white sexuality. Finding a more authentic sexuality that’s just me means pushing past what is considered the appropriate way for me to be sexual based on my race, ethnicity, and gender. This has meant a lot of experimentation, sometimes playing up how “bad” I am or being tremendously secretive about my sexual transgressions (well, clearly not after this book). And it meant sifting through partners and figuring out which ones are a little too obsessed with my being Indian” —Samhita Mukhopadhyay’s Outdated: Why Dating Is Ruining Your Love Life (via soadatnewschool)